A Letter of Tribute to Delhi gang rape victim
I didn’t know you. What happened with you is horrifying, painful and brings tears in my eyes. It’s shameful for each one of us because we all are responsible for your situation. Government failed to provide robust laws, police failed to secure you, media failed to cover you and our society failed to respect you.
We live in a society where men tease women, objectify them for fun and pleasure… where women are not important enough for generating votes for politicians… where women can’t complaint in police stations… where women with short clothes are considered to be available… where women in offices are considered an exciting opportunity… where some men have become worse than animals… where women have no right to be free and safe. No body dared to discuss this seriously before your incident. Now a lot is being debated about all these issues ranging from how we can protect and safeguard women by bringing reforms in society, judiciary, etc. to changing mindset. This happened all because of you. You were brave, you wanted to live. I want to tell you your life hasn’t gone in vain.
I apologize that I could not join the protest for your justice nor I could change FB profile pic with a black dot for sympathy. Rather than changing profile pic why can’t society change it’s mindset? Why can’t men really respect women rather than changing status? Why is that they say a lot but themselves don’t follow? Why is that boys are talking about respecting women and on other hand searching for the hottest entertaining girl for new year’s eve? Why is that men are reading articles about sexual assaults and in public places they are scanning women from top to bottom? Why can’t college boys stop discussing whether a girl is virgin or available for drinks/dates? Why can’t a group of men stop staring a girl passing nearby? Why can’t men realize that women have hearts and feelings? Women are delicate & precious and need our love, care and support. They are not to be betrayed, dumped or used. How much more time will men require to change this mindset? I wish rather than shouting slogans or posting on walls if men could adopt self-control and self-realization you would have felt much better. But I promise you I’ll try my best to spread this message among my friends. Please accept this a token of respect and support.
Still I don’t know you. But you are an inspiration for women. You are a lesson for men. You are a motivation for revolution. You are message that will never be lost. You will live forever…
May your soul RIP…
It’s 12.12.12 – A unique date in the history. Something you feel lucky to be a part of. Everyone is busy in making this memorable. Couples are making passionate love, people purchasing costly items, girls are going out for extra-ordinary shopping, babies inside mothers’ womb trying their best to come out (so that people could easily remember their birthdays), those in love getting married.. people across the globe are going crazier. So am I but I don’t have a girl friend to make love nor something special to buy. But I do have some sparkling memories and experiences to share.
For me 2012 was a surprise, unexpected and unimaginable. Some unknown people came in my life and like aliens conquered me with their magic and friendship. They loved me… cared for me… some times made me laugh… other times made me cry. Like a kid they taught me how to eat, how to play and most important how to live. Now, they are my family. They are my mentors. They are my love. They are my F.R.I.E.N.D.S
Now, it’s numerology or a coincidence. My friends and my life is defined by 12.12.12 = 3+3+3 = 9 Friends (or what I call 9 lives). And they are:
Ohhh… wait let me start height-wise 😛
Sonali: A cute little girl who was known yet unknown. Studied in same school but never talked. Met in Infosys, I guess we were destined to meet. For me she’s a cute, little, simple kid and one of the nicest friends. She is the one who is responsible for everything good and bad. Introduced me to her alien gang who is also now my gang 😀
Surbhi: Well well… what to say about her. A tasty food dish is impossible without spices and flavors. She’s the one who adds spices to my life. The girl who always lifts up the mood, a party freak and the most fun-loving alien of our gang. But sometimes she adds too much spices in food 😛
Mehak: Wese to ye rishte mein colleague hai but hai best friend. She is the one with me since Mysore training, accidentally or what, don’t know. This colleague-cum-friend alien is one who is always there with me in Infosys. She is like a sister to me.. who guides me.. who knows me. She’s the one who taught me to be happy no matter what.
Prateek: Initially, a strange looking guy who is gentle and simple. The one that glues the our alien gang. Soon to be a roomie. (Will add more stuff to this section)
Sarita: Unfortunately, a transferred friend who is miles far yet so near. Someone who stays in touch and will always there whenever I need her. A very simple and caring alien friend.
Varsha: It’s hard to imagine without being a girl friend or family member someone could love you and understand you like no one else. She is one of the most lively friend I ever had. The one who knows what fun is and what friendship is.
(Now, its becoming hard to judge your heights.. next three are almost equal.)
Sumit: It’s really hard to find a true and sincere friend among boys but this guy won’t let you down. Frank, open and truly an amazing friend who taught me how to enjoy the world cuisines. One thing is for sure he must be unique, because it’s very hard for boys to get in my best friend list.
Sumedha: A granny, a mom, a wife, a sister, a girlfriend, a best friend… she summaries all the relationships that I could share. She is the one who scolds me, appreciates me and most of the time pull my legs. A person that I always wish to have in all my generations. I share the most unique bond with this cute cartoon 😀
Pallavi: If she reads, she surely would be surprise to find her name here as we are not close buddies yet. But I wish I could tell her why she is so special for me. Like a cherry on a cake, she is cute, adorable and innocent with a sweet lovely smile… (I want to write more.. but darr lagta hai kahin naraaz na ho jaye.. else I would have written a book on her 😛 )
Until, they all came in my life I had not experienced true friendship. Now, I know the real meaning of friendship and why it’s even better and eternal than love life. It’s beautiful. It’s amazing.
Today, I want to tell the world, these aliens are now my biggest strength and one of the weakness of my life. I feel incomplete in their absence. Each one of them holds a special place in my heart. I wish we always stay together no matter where ever we are. I will love you forever. I am glad that I was alive on earth on 12.12.12 and was with 9 priceless jewels of my life !!
What to do in office bus ?
Have you ever thought what all amazing and weird things people do while travelling by office(Infosys) bus? Here are few of them:
First and the most common one, what I call it ‘Plug n Play’. Most of the guys & gals just plug in their earphones to enjoy the FM channels or their personal playlist. This is also the one of the best ways to stay away from noise (especially that of khatara buses).
Be a ‘Bookworm’ – these category of people can be found reading books, novels, newspapers, etc. whether it’s early morning or late evening, they keep their eyes stuck on the endless pages of their books (mostly fiction and motivation types). Sincere advice to such people, please take care of your eyes.
Next we have,‘Sleeping Beauties’. These are the people if they get seat they would go into a deep sleep and won’t wake up till they reach their destination or they have some horrifying dream. Till date I haven’t understood how such people wake up exactly few seconds before reaching to their destination. How they get such exact precision? Are they fitted with in-built alarm clock or what? It’s a hot topic of research. To add on, once I had a chance to sit beside a sleeping beauty and she looked so pretty and cute. Wish I could see her again..
Moving further, we have the ‘M-class’. It includes employees ending with ‘M’ – PM, SPM, DM. Like a UFO, you will rarely see them in bus because they have their own cars and bikes. Typical characteristics of this class are – working on laptop, making endless calls, talking to clients, more aged and mostly married. If by chance you sit near them, don’t ever try to poke in their laptops, else you will be murdered on the spot.
Then we have ‘Gangsters’ who are generally in a group of 3-4. They would discuss everything they could possibly imagine, eating chips and chocolates without realizing that someone might not able to control his/her temptation. Gangsters are the loudest in the bus. But if the gangsters are females you must find another seat.
Then we have a wonderful species popularly known as ‘Love Birds’. They are the people for whom talking to their loved ones is priority. Most of these prefer to sit on window side of bus, so that they can talk all private matters without letting their neighbors hear anything. I feel company should identify this specie and make proper use for support, client calls, etc. Company could even save a huge cost spent for training BPO employees.
All the fun and excitement is missed if I don’t mention this category. Exclusive for women, I named it ‘Ready’. It’s my favorite. This includes the girls who are too conscious about their looks, dressing, and style. They often carry a mini portable make-up kit that can be used in bus. I am not sure but it includes lip gloss, eye liners, comb, etc. I have seen and observed (mostly in morning) they use all these tools once the bus is about to reach the office. Some of the girls even try to imagine bus windows as mirrors; I wonder how smart they are.
Now, it’s the time for unveiling the last and most interesting thing to do in the office bus. It’s weird but best. It’s exciting yet sometimes boring. But I love it. It’s uncategorized and undefined. It’s for people like me who can’t sleep in bus or even a read a book or talk endlessly. It’s just enjoying and observing the people around, smiling on their actions… sometimes listening to music… sometimes just gazing out of window… sometimes eating chocolates… sometimes giving a smile to strangers and getting a strange mysterious look in return. And finally when you reach the destination, telling the world what people do in office bus 😛
Authors: Durjoy Dutta, Nikita Singh
I had waited for long to get this book at my door step but when I got it I was surprised to see the autographs of Durjoy and Nikita. The only reason I wanted to try this book was its title “If it’s not forever, it’s not love”.
If it’s not forever, it’s not love is very light and entertaining book that I have read in recent times. The cute romance and true love of Deb and Avantika will keep you engaged and smiling till the end. There are some amazing moments where Avantika will steal your senses and you will keep on imagining this sweet and spicy girl in your mind.
But the core and touching part of this novel are the pages from the burnt diary of a guy named Ritam who dies in the bomb blast just leaving some incomplete memories. Deb along with Avantika, Shrey and Tiya goes for a road trip hoping that they will do justice to Ritam and his story. In search of Ragini, they journey through Dehradun, Haridwar, Bhopal, Mumbai and Banagalore. Each turn in their journey is beautifully stated and expressed.
Flashback from Ritam’s life will touch your heart and make you realize the importance of conveying your feelings to your loved ones. The best part of this book is its smartly and softly expressed feelings and thoughts that many times are difficult to express.
Although, Deb and Avantika won’t make you feel bored, the amazing chemistry of Shrey and Tiya will add more charm to your face while reading. Despite my all time favorite Avantika, reaching the end of story I was in love with Tiya too 🙂
If you truly love someone, then don’t hesitate to say ‘I love you’ because is it’s not forever, it’s not love.
Pune is all about Technology, Fashion, Education, Lust, Love & Youth !!
Fasten your seat belt because this journey is gonna be fun…
The day I landed in Pune I witnessed just rain, rain and heavy rain. I imagined what else I can expect from this well known city. It’s now that I have found answers to my question…
My posting at Infosys, Pune was the only reason that brought me to this tech savvy city of Maharashtra. With lots of IT parks/companies, Pune is undoubtedly the India’s top IT hub (after Bangalore). The city is filled with smart & stylish IT professionals working in some or other IT company like Infosys, Accenture, Wipro, IBM, TCS, Cognizant, Adobe. You name a company you will find it in some or other part of this city.
I began my journey in Pune from the Infosys campus in Hinjewadi IT Park. Believe me I was dumbfound when I saw this beautiful campus for the first time and felt excited that I would be working here. Now, if you go 8-10 kms towards the city, you will find a special class of people known as ‘IT Professional’. The 80% population of the area is working youth. You go on any road you will find people, guys n girls; with bags on back coming late from offices, going early to offices, roaming on bikes.. Obsessed with internet such from movie tickets to pizzas everything they order online. Sometimes I wonder where the old people and families in this country are. Are old people endangered species of human race ?
Well if you are convinced pune is only about IT race, think again. Just go few more kms towards the city you will find another wonderful race.. a little more stylish, a little more young. That’s the typical ‘College Crowd’. Pune has as many no. of colleges as IT companies. It’s an education hub with students migrated from all across the country… some in search of true education… some in search of independence.. some in search of girlfriends/boyfriends… and some to enjoy the nightlife full of discs and pubs. Well thanks to the college crowd that add more charm to this busy and fast moving city.
Like other metro capitals (Delhi, Bangalore, Mumbai) it has malls, pubs, discs, restaurants, shopping centers, recreational clubs, spa centers and endless things that can serve you on weekends. Among the major and popular hangout zones are FC Road, MG Road, KP Road, Kalayani Nagar. The most unique and surprising thing about FC Road is that you will always find girls and boys walking hand in hand, hugging on roads.. group of college gang… sexy girls in minimal size outfits… boys with their bikes. Life on this road is far beyond the social stigmas and Indian culture which can hardly be found in cities like Delhi. On the other hand, KP Road is one stop destination for discs, pubs, restaurants, foreign cafe.. lavish celebrations & parties with high standard spending. Nightlife is awesome especially on weekends 🙂
However, if you are thinking to explore the corners of the city; high end segments of cars like BMW, Mercedes, Audi with special number plates on roads will make you curious. On the other hand, the public transport will put you on back seat. Bus services in the city are horrible.. with limited buses… overloaded crowd such that on boarding the bus you will pat your back. If by chance, you happen to be on bus.. the next moment you will realize that bus may breakdown in next few seconds. The city also has autos with good service but their sky rocket prices will make your pockets empty. So if you are planning to go for outing; reserve enough cash for transportation. The best option for everyday commuters is by company/college buses. Ohh.. I forgot to mention; the total no. of buses belonging to Infosys, Wipro, Cognizant are more than the no. of buses run by the government. This city really needs a Metro system with more priority than any other city.
Another important thing that I noticed about this city is that despite celebrating festival like Ganesh Chatutrthi, Navratre, Diwali… the city lacks social bonding. Though people come out in large numbers to celebrate and enjoy; yet they don’t know about each other, interactions are less. The youth of the city knows the meaning of love yet there are more breakups.. lust outclasses the emotions. People don’t know who their neighbors are. No one cares for others, people mind their own business. This mentality is good but not appreciable. This is where Pune needs to learn from other cities.
After experiencing, shor in the city one can take an off to Lonavala/Kahnadala which is beautiful and peaceful place just 60 kms from the city and will rejuvenate you mind, body and soul. One can also stop at famous religious place ‘shirdi’ that is only an overnight journey from the city. Mumbai, Goa are also not far away.. you just need to pack up your bags.
This is all what I learnt, experienced and explored about Pune in past three months. My wonderful journey full of new discoveries, excitements and thrills continues…
Disclaimer : This post is not to malign or target girls as some of you may think. The text in this is also not directed to a specific individual or a group. This article is just for fun and to share some wonderful experience.
Can you imagine some girls are so talented that they can run on treadmill for 15 minutes while talking to their boyfriends simultaneously ? Few of them can even hold phone on one hand and a dumble on other.. though after a count of 10 they switch.
We all know that girls are the most talkative creatures in this world. But do we know how much they love their phones and their calls ? While boarding/deboarding the bus they are so busy in their talks that later they find they are in wrong bus or have got down at wrong stop.
In food courts, while having food, standing in queues, drinking water they are on calls. I don’t understand are they going to miss important meetings or they are gonna have break up if they don’t talk 😛 Few days back, I saw a girl just ahead of me in a queue taking food. She had a handbag, one small clutch, a cell phone in one hand and plate on the other. While taking the food the plate got heavier. In a moment, the small clutch and cell phone were in one of the columns of her plate with daal, curd, chapati and rice. I couldn’t stop my laughter but some how managed to kept it low. She gave me a quick glance and moved quickly because may she realized that there was no place for salad 😛
Are modern girls getting too much tech savvy ? Believe me friends there is no place in this world where girls don’t mix their activities with their talks 😛
In office cubicles, while typing on workstations, while getting coffee, in buses, while crossing roads, while eating, sleeping, writing… girls are getting crazy and crazy. But who cares, these girls are the source of income for mobile operators. Let it go till girls are happy, their callers are happy and most important the people around them watching them get a good time pass and some interesting stuff to write and talk about !!