The Mystery behind a ‘Proposal’

A mystery that traps each one of us….at some or other time.

But most of the time we don’t have an answer to it.... and it remains as an unsolved Puzzle.

Read on… and try to solve this mystery. Good Luck !!


“Proposal”….did it hit a chord??? I am so sure it definitely did. Come on you are teenagers now don’t tell me you’ve never proposed or been proposed…if you haven’t then I’d suggest you ‘grow up’…

Like thousands of words ‘propose/proposal’ too is an ordinary word, but the feeling that it brings is extraordinary. It’s often heard in context to love, marriages, business deals and what not. It has some kind of importance and mystery behind it which made me to think about it in a detailed manner. The word ‘propose(v)’ according to the oxford dictionary means

1.    Put forward an idea for consideration
2.    Nominate for a post
3.    Make an offer of marriage to someone

At first sight it might seem to be just simple. Here we would be dealing with it from the angle of love/today’s youth.

You all must be having a doubt in mind as to why I am telling you about this. It is important to understand it and the way of dealing with it. Much of my own sweet and bitter experiences and few of my friends helped me to look more into it.

It’s the story of all of us. It’s a story of all that has happened in our life or will happen at later a stage. But we will definitely face it atleast once. Here are some facts from the boy’s point of view.

To start with, whenever we like someone or are fascinated by love (sometimes infatuation), we decide to make a proposal to that special person. We think of various ways to propose ranging from meeting them, calling them….to sending those cards/gifts/roses. This reminds of a beautiful title track from the movie ‘Mera Phela Phela Pyar(MP3)’ which perfectly suits this situation.

Our heart pumps with higher pace and brain loaded with all types of tricky questions and answers. I wonder why this doesn’t happen in our exams or in classes when the teacher is teaching us.

Whenever we are ready for the proposal – a fight starts between our heart and brain. Our heart says – “You like her, you love her, she too loves you, you need her, tell her….ask her”.

But our brain says – “Wait a little, know her more……what if she says NO, what if she doesn’t talk, what if she even goes away from you”. We are in state of dilemma, totally confused.

As soon as our heart wants us ‘to propose her’, this fight begins creating the most mysterious situation in our life yet the most exciting one. During this transition all sorts of unusual things happen – such as not able to concentrate on work, sleepless nights, daydreaming, etc….. she seems to be everywhere.

But our brain is much smarter. It keeps poking our heart with different tricks. This fight only ends second after the proposal has been made. This is the time to wait for an answer. This is the time when excitement and anxiousness is at its peak.

As soon as we get the answer all previous thoughts come to an end.

If the proposal is accepted, the world is ours. We are the happiest one.

And if it gets rejected we get tears and sadness. We don’t wish to talk to anyone and try to seek more justifications for being rejected. Our mind is flooded with many questions and we hate ourselves for making the proposal. Again, this force me tell you a healing song “Tune Jo Na Kaha” from the movie New York.

After this, we are left with only two options.

First, Counter-Proposal (revised proposal) the term I learnt in Legal Issues meaning proposing with modifications in a different manner. We try our best to pursue our loved one.

Second, some magical or super natural thing happens. After few hours/days/months she calls back and feels sorry. She accepts the proposal giving all sorts of convincing reasons like – I was not sure at that time, wanted to be single, had a boyfriend…etc.

If both of these options fail, we totally feel broken many of us even cry if we really felt for them. We start hating the word “proposal” which once used to be our favourite and bring a tremendous smile on our face.

But most of us try to convince ourselves “There would be someone else waiting for me, I just need to look for her”, bringing back hope and excitement.

Here I feel that girls should know what it takes to propose. It is one of the most difficult tasks for boys. They should support us by understanding our feelings, the best way accepting it. 🙂

Sometimes I wonder why B.Tech CSE students, like me study Software Engineering, we should rather be taught Proposal Engineering which would be more practical analysing all the processes and risk, it would be a lot more interesting too.

I however still stand in doubt whether to propose her or not. What reply I will get if I propose her. What if she says no….or should I still enjoy the time with her and watch the smile on her face and decide it later.

As I had mentioned before it’s a struggle, and my heart and mind are on it…still struggling still wondering still anticipating her answer… its a hard choice to be made but i ll wait for my answer…’for my calling'(as they say in supernatural a t.v. serial)… and of course the right time… till then it’s a long wait….

Written By:- Ankit Gogia


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38 thoughts on “The Mystery behind a ‘Proposal’

  1. Parth Sharma August 17, 2009 at 10:23 pm Reply

    Gr8 article man….it is one of the most realistic approach to some1’s feelings…
    continue the gr8 work….

    • ankitgogia August 17, 2009 at 10:26 pm Reply

      Heyy…thnx 4 readind…n appriciation…!!

  2. ritika August 17, 2009 at 10:39 pm Reply

    splendid work….a great thot has been given to d subjct….awsum…keep it up!!

    • ankitgogia August 17, 2009 at 10:43 pm Reply

      Thnx 4 being a reader of this blog….
      Happy that u liked it… 🙂

  3. Kaamil August 17, 2009 at 11:58 pm Reply

    gud vn..

  4. Kaamil August 18, 2009 at 12:00 am Reply

    gud vn…

    • ankitgogia August 18, 2009 at 7:08 pm Reply


  5. Arjun Narang August 18, 2009 at 12:13 am Reply

    gr8 work dude……the feelings u hav written are somwhat similar to wat one goes thru ….gr8 expeerice must b dere at back i must say …..

    • ankitgogia August 18, 2009 at 7:10 pm Reply

      Yeahh thnx…thats why I wrote…. 🙂
      yr….but still remains unsolved

  6. Chandeep August 18, 2009 at 7:47 pm Reply

    awsm work dude!!!vry realistic…keep it up..

    • ankitgogia August 18, 2009 at 11:29 pm Reply

      Sure…i ll try my best…

  7. nikhil August 19, 2009 at 12:50 am Reply

    gr8 work yar……

    • ankitgogia August 19, 2009 at 10:33 pm Reply

      thnx yr

  8. manas August 19, 2009 at 11:00 pm Reply

    as i say explicit is always better than implicit and
    when love ends , how little of love do the lovers understand …

    keep up the good work . 🙂

    • ankitgogia August 19, 2009 at 11:09 pm Reply

      sir…love to hear this comment 🙂
      thank u

  9. vipul August 20, 2009 at 9:04 pm Reply

    nice wrk yr, u cvered d sbject almost cmpltely, bt i would lyk to kno d ideal proposal, for it’s vry hrd to kno hw to propose a grl??
    plz help dose who need it dsprately…!!

    • ankitgogia August 20, 2009 at 9:13 pm Reply

      thank u…. yr i don’t have any answer to ur question
      still this mystery is unsolved… 🙂

  10. Neha August 20, 2009 at 9:58 pm Reply

    hy gd one yr but all thats true
    it alwys had a fight between heart nd mind
    bt think 1 thing that god has given us heart below mind so first think from mind thn heart…..

    and if u love her respect her give it a chance dear….life is a gamble and u hv to play it atleast u cn tell or xpress ur feelings…..if it is accepted then very good if nt thn “tune jo na kha me wo sunta rha”………..lolz….bt serious;y enjoy life nd give it ur 100% so that later on u nt feel that u hvnt done it or xpress it………..


    • ankitgogia August 20, 2009 at 10:12 pm Reply

      Mam i would lyk to thank u for looking into this and giving me wonderful suggestions….
      u r absolutely rite….this gambling involves a high risk that can make a person’s day and even break him…
      i will sure consider ur ideas and let others too knw this…..
      Thnx a lot for solving the mystery to a gr8 extend….:-)
      god bless u..
      n Cheeerrrrrrsssss !!

  11. Gautam August 24, 2009 at 12:53 am Reply

    Thats more like it……….gr8 gng………….u shld publicize ur work n blog search engines…i think ur work needs a bigger audience……!!! newayz ! keep it up ! n try writing mre…!!!

  12. gaurav sharma August 24, 2009 at 4:35 pm Reply

    hey there ..nice one …..yh well about ur question{whther we should go for proposing somone}…wht me think of it is dear,tht one should allways go for it for sure without taking acceptence or rejection in consideration cuz evenif ur rejected u still conveys ur msg to him\her…which is very imp cuz in reality ppl just dont bother to say wht they really feel….and to an extent it is ok too cuz words cant describe feelings but still as something is better thn nothing one should at least try….on acceptnce life is heaven and even on rejection u make her notice u too..and tht’s really very imp too….u have just made it in her mind ab “you” someone whom she have to think even if she dnt wanna too….and thts wht the objective of a’nt it…

    gaurav sharma..

    • ankitgogia August 25, 2009 at 7:07 pm Reply

      Heyy….wonderful thought, this is wt i call a gud justification 🙂
      yeeahhh u r rite… i ll surely forward ur answer to others….
      as its imp to understand the mystery behind it…n d most imp the way to deal it…

      I l’d like to thnk u for ur awesome response to this article…ang being a part of this blog 🙂

  13. gaurav sharma August 25, 2009 at 7:25 pm Reply

    well thnks all appreciation goes to u if u like it,,,and as far as forwarding is concerned so my frnd its ur blog may be u shld do tht,,well to be very civilized with u..hahahhaa…..just kidding,,but still wanna u to forward it…

    and yh i’lld love to be part of it..just let me knw whn u update anything new..]

    gaurav sharma

  14. chandra kant August 30, 2009 at 2:52 pm Reply

    Hi gogi…finally managed to hit this page..:)) Good writing …but i dont find anything that interests me. everyone knows girls are stupid ( dont try to kill me) with fewer exceptions. please post some technical topics , so that i get tempted to visit again.

    • ankitgogia August 30, 2009 at 6:54 pm Reply

      Good…that u hit the page 🙂
      yuhhh…i have technicsl topics lined up in my list…
      soon i ll be posting them !!

  15. Anjali August 30, 2009 at 11:04 pm Reply

    nice article……………….keep writing may be one day she gets impressed jiske liye u write these stories( just joking)……………well real great work
    and about the question u have asked in the story…………i guess its only u who can decide so dont b afraid of the result just do what u want to

    • ankitgogia August 31, 2009 at 6:04 pm Reply

      Heyyaa….wonderful to get a comment frm u….i appriciate that u took out time to read this…..
      yr…u absolutely rite…she ll definitely be impressed but only wn she reads it…ab kon samghaye usse… 🙂
      n thnx 4 ur overwhelming response !!

  16. sunita August 31, 2009 at 3:37 pm Reply


    really gr8 to hear 4rm u. Nice and interesting page Dear…
    come on yaar! Dnt apply ur mind over Heart atleast. Be spontaneous if u feel something. And dont leave anything for your regrets like the song ‘tune jo na kaha mai vo sunta rahaa…..Ab na pehle si baaten hai, bolo to lab thartharate hai, khamosh najre rahe bejubaa…..

    take care

    • ankitgogia August 31, 2009 at 6:06 pm Reply

      Thank u so much 🙂 …4 being a reader of this blog….
      I ll try to implement ur suggestion…
      keep in touch for next interesting articles…!!

  17. Sameer Kr. Jasra September 6, 2009 at 11:49 pm Reply

    no doubt its one of ur masterpiece………n i am sure to have more of the greatest stuff from u!!!! bakki do propose yaaaar………..proposal is full of positiveness…… can nvr be a wrong thought or a wrong move!!!! so be true to ur feelings…….n if u have true feelings 4 sm1 den do express it!!!

    my wishes r wid u……

    • ankitgogia September 6, 2009 at 11:55 pm Reply

      overwhelmed by ur gr8 comment….apse hi to sikha hai….”love vs infatuation”….. 🙂
      i ll try to bring more interesting stuffs in future….
      its matter of pride to get blessings from readers like u…
      good luck !!

  18. ayush September 10, 2009 at 11:57 pm Reply

    …really a fantabulous job u did it bro..!! u totally ve carved reality in front of us,u given us a sound view or ve revealed our archives,wat we used to do in skul lyf hehehehehe …
    …toally awesome article with full of mirch masala,suspense,a cumplete entertainment bundle..!!!
    u roxs bro!!! \m/

  19. Abhi_Rash May 12, 2010 at 1:16 am Reply

    heyy,, how u doing?
    Well described the “FUNDAS OF PROPOSAL”.. hehe
    i liked a section of urs very much, teaching “Proposal Engg” instead of “S/w Engg”.. AWESOME.. s/w has DFD’s n all isme kya hoga re baba? 😛

    well well i couldn’t stop to put a smile through out the article.. n hows Avantika? 😀 🙂 n ya i hope exams must be on or just on head, so Best of luck for that too..

    God Bless!!!

    • ankitgogia May 12, 2010 at 12:04 pm Reply

      Hey, sorry but I couldn’t recoganise u… so plz introduce urself again 🙂
      Na ya for the Fundas of Proposal… i ll surely write its detailed version….
      n glad to hear u liked it n brought up smile 🙂

      Also, guesses vry well…prac exams going on… 🙂

  20. Garima Naswa May 27, 2010 at 7:53 pm Reply

    i think there is no need for any proposal, i.e. u wont have to speak anything…. if shez the perfect girl for u n u’re d perfect boy 4 her ur frequencies n wavelengths n amplitudes etc etc everything will match…… she might know your thoughts even before you express them……. mystery solved ….. n wen it comes to asking her to get married i think u “ought to” know wat dat gal likes…… n so u cay even devise the best proposal 4 her……….. 😀

    • ankitgogia May 28, 2010 at 11:23 pm Reply

      oye….If I had used this extensive physics, this topic won’t have been here… Its just easy to match frequencies and wavelengths theoretically but not practically…. Chalo agar ye physics ka funda man bhi lia jaye… freq matches, grls would add a phase or noise to distort it 🙂 exams se free ho ja… research karenge 🙂 lol

  21. garima naswa June 2, 2010 at 1:31 am Reply

    nt funny dude…….jo main bol rhi hun sach hai…..

    • ankitgogia June 3, 2010 at 8:52 pm Reply

      terko kya experience hai… ??

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